Thursday, September 26, 2013

Arrest made in Miss Teen USA Cassidy Wolf 'sextortion' case

from cnn



By Greg Botelho, CNN
updated 8:58 PM EDT, Thu September 26, 2013

Beauty queen says webcam was hacked

STORY HIGHLIGHTS
  • NEW: FBI: Suspect released on bond, can use computer for school only
  • Jared James Abrahams, 19, is arrested after being accused of extortion
  • Authorities say he hijacked webcams, took photos, threatened to expose women
  • One of his alleged victims was Cassidy Wolf, who is now Miss Teen USA
(CNN) -- A college student was arrested Thursday for allegedly hijacking the webcams of young women -- among them reigning Miss Teen USA Cassidy Wolf -- taking nude images, then blackmailing his victims to send him more explicit material or else be exposed.
Jared James Abrahams, a 19-year-old computer science student from Temecula, California, surrendered on Thursday to the FBI on federal extortion charges, the agency announced. Authorities say he victimized young women surreptitiously, by taking control of their computers then photographing them as they changed out of their clothes.
Abrahams appeared in court later in the day, then was released "on intensive pretrial supervision and home detention with electronic monitoring" after his parents signed a $25,000 bond, FBI spokeswoman Lourdes Arocho said. U.S. District Judge Jean Rosenbluth ruled that he could use a single desktop computer at his parents' home for school only, albeit only after monitoring software is applied.
When he admitted what he'd done in June, Abrahams said he had 30 to 40 "slave computers" -- or other people's electronic devices he controlled -- and has had as many as 150 total, according to acriminal complaint.
His arrest came six months after a teenager identified in court documents as C.W. alerted authorities. She has since publicly identified herself as Cassidy Wolf, the recently crowned Miss Teen USA. She touted news reports of her alleged tormenter's arrest on her Twitter feed.
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At the time she contacted police, in March, Wolf was not a national figure -- even though she was Miss Teen California -- and lived in an apartment and attended Orange Coast College in Costa Mesa.
Wolf got a Facebook alert that someone had tried to change her password to the social networking site, then noticed other passwords had been changed and that her Twitter avatar was now a half-nude picture of herself.
A short time later, she received what would be the first of many messages, this one featuring pictures of Wolf at her Riverside County address and others apparently taken months earlier when she lived in Orange County, says the criminal complaint. The message explained "what's going to happen" if Wolf didn't send pictures or videos or "do what I tell you to do" in a five-minute Skype videoconference, according to the criminal complaint.
"Either you do one of the things listed below or I upload these pics and a lot more (I have a LOT more and those are better quality) on all your accounts for everybody to see and your dream of being a model will be transformed into a pornstar (sic)," he wrote.
Recalling that day, Wolf told NBC's "Today" show she started "screaming (and) bawling my eyes out."
"I wasn't sure what to do," she said in August, shortly after her Miss Teen USA win. "So it was terrifying."
The messenger had taken great efforts to hide his online identity. But investigators were eventually able to find corresponding e-mails, IP addresses and other communications they linked to Abraham. They also tied him to online forums asking about malware, how to control webcams, and hacking into Facebook accounts.
Investigators also linked him to at least eight other young women -- some of them, like Wolf, from Southern California, though others were from as far away as Moldova. The victims told authorities similar stories: of a person they did not know saying, and in some cases proving, he had nude images and making demands as a result.
The stalker claimed to have 1,000 photographs of one woman, the complaint said. When she asked, "Why are you doing this to me?" the response was, "I told you I'll answer any questions after you Skype."
As an FBI agent was speaking by phone to this young woman, she logged onto her Instagram account to find it populated by nude pictures of her, the complaint said.
A few young women apparently complied with the demands for a Skype session. The man promised not to record the sessions and he made it look like he was erasing the nude pictures of them. One such session was found on the suspect's phone, police said.
Investigators examining e-mail exchanges found one in which an alleged victim wrote she was downloading Skype and pleading, "Please remember im only 17. Have a heart."
"I'll tell you this right now! I do NOT have a heart!!!" he wrote back, per the complaint. "However I do stick to my deals! Also age doesn't mean a thing to me."
Authorities executed a search warrant at Abrahams' home on June 4, at which time he "voluntarily agreed to speak" with a pair of FBI agents. Describing himself in that interview as a college freshman who was good with computers, the complaint said, he admitted using malware and his expertise to "watch his victims change their clothes and ... use the photographs against them."
Abrahams further admitted the e-mail accounts, VPN, domain names or other pieces of the electronic puzzle that investigators used to build a case were his, according to the criminal complaint.
There were no publicly listed phone numbers for Abrahams in Temecula, and his legal representation was not immediately known.
As to the now 19-year-old Wolf, she is juggling her studies at the New York Film Academy with duties tied to being Miss Teen USA.
A lifelong dancer and aspiring model, Wolf is using her platform to promote a number of initiatives -- including, given her personal experience, the issue of cyberstalking.
"It does happen," she said in an interview with CNN affiliate WPIX. "And there are ways to prevent it."

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Teacher Who Allegedly Had Baby With Teen Student Arrested


She gave birth June 18 after an alleged nearly one-year relationship with a 16-year-old

By Melissa Pamer
|  Tuesday, Jul 2, 2013  |  Updated 5:17 PM PDT
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Attorney: Teacher's Sex Charges Stem From "Mental Illness"
This picture of Laura Whitehurst -- a Redlands teacher arrested Monday for allegedly having an affair and a baby with a 16-year-old student -- appeared in the 2013 Citrus Valley High School yearbook, according to the photo editor for the newspaper the Redlands Daily Facts.
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A Redlands high school teacher who allegedly gave birth to a baby fathered by a teen student has been arrested for having a sex with the male pupil.
Laura Elizabeth Whitehurst, 28, was arrested Monday evening after being questioned at her home in Redlands.
She is a teacher at Citrus Valley High School, according to the Redlands Police Department, which issued a news release on the arrest Tuesday afternoon.
Whitehurst was taken into custody on suspicion on unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor and released after posting $25,000 bail Monday evening.
The student was 16 at the time of the nearly year-long alleged relationship, according to police.
"One thing led to another and he ended up at her residence, and it's been going on, going for approximately one year now," said Redlands police Cmdr. Shawn Ryan.
"She was open with her pregnancy. I don't know what her story was to everybody else, but it was an open pregnacy," Ryan added. "The school district knew about it."
The mother of the alleged victim, who is now 17, on Monday reported the relationship to the Redlands Unified School District, which in turn contacted police, according to Carl Baker, a police spokesman.
Whitehurst had given birth to a baby on June 18, the news release stated.
“Investigators say the child was fathered by the teen,” the news release stated.
The San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office has not yet received a case from police, according to spokesman Chris Lee.
Baker said police were still investigating. No booking photo of Whitehurst is available at this time, he said. The photo at right is from Citrus Valley High School's 2013 yearbook.
At an afternoon news conference, Baker issued a brief statement from the school district, which stated that the teacher had been placed on leave after police were notifed of the allegations. Whitehurst was not named in the statement, and the district said it would not comment at this time.
"The district takes this arrest very seriously," the statement read. "Our heart goes out to the victim and his family."
According to the school's online staff directory, Whitehurst is an English teacher.
Students who spoke to NBC4 lauded her performance as a teacher.
Citrus Valley High School has about 2,200 students, according to state records. It graduated its first senior class in 2012.
Anyone with additional information is asked to contact Detective Natasha Crawford at (909) 798-7623 or Redlands Police Dispatch at (909) 798-7681.
 
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Saturday, October 13, 2012

6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS



Posted: 10/13/2012 5:00 am

If you want to save your marriage, for the love of God, don't go to marriage counseling.
Eighteen years ago my marriage was in tatters. My husband and I went to counseling for years thinking there was something wrong with us, but we finally realized that the counseling was the problem. That set me on a path to discovering the principles of intimacy, which I describe in The Surrendered Wife, a New York Times best-selling book printed in 26 countries and 15 languages.
Hundreds of thousands of women have used these principles to transform their shredded marriages into intimate, passionate relationships, but too many are still stuck in ineffective marriage counseling. Here are some of the reasons that marriage counseling is a big, fat lie.
1. It starts with calling your spouse a loser
When a wife says to her husband, "We should go to counseling," what she really means is, "You're a loser."
Since a key ingredient for intimacy is emotional safety, this approach puts the connection she craves further out of reach. The last time your husband criticized you, did it make you want to hug him?
A woman who doesn't realize she just criticized her husband by suggesting marriage counseling might think his snarky response is coming out of nowhere -- which proves he needs marriage counseling.
No relationship ever got happier from one person criticizing the other. What takes more courage -- but always results in much greater connection -- is being vulnerable by admitting you feel hurt, rejected or lonely.
2. Some marriage counselors are failures
Some marriage counselors aren't married. Others are divorced twice or unhappily married. Is this who you want to pay for advice? Would you take fitness tips from a 350-pound personal trainerwho just had bypass surgery?
If your marriage counselor doesn't have the kind of relationship you want, she simply can't tell you how to get it. When I think about the lousy advice that we got during our marriage counseling, I'm amazed that we survived it.
Instead of someone with an impressive diploma, consider seeking the advice of a wife with a happy, healthy, intimate relationship.
3. Any fool can complain and most do during marriage counseling
The fastest way to destroy your relationship is to focus on what's wrong with your partner. Dwelling on his faults is the opposite of what you did when you fell in love. If you admired his ambition and now you think he works too much, guess what changed? Only the way you're looking at him.
Couples typically argue after a marriage counseling session because focusing on each other's faults makes you feel more resentful and hopeless.
If you want to restore your relationship, here's a great remedy: Make a habit of giving your partner three expressions of gratitude daily. Focusing on the things you appreciate about your mate is a powerful way to remind yourself why you chose him in the first place.
4. It's a hideout for hypocrites
Lots of us go to marriage counseling secretly believing we're just there to be supportive while the counselor fixes the other person's shortcomings. Marriage counselors will tell you that the only thing you have to do to change your spouse is get him to come in for a hundred sessions. But marriage counseling will never work because it focuses on someone you can't change: Your spouse.
Trying to control someone else not only wears you out, it gives you the illusion that you're working really hard on your relationship while the other person isn't doing anything. It also steals energy away from improving the only person you can: Yourself.
It's only when you accept and celebrate your spouse as the quirky individual he is that you can both relax into being yourselves -- just like you did when you were dating.
5. Men are not big, hairy women
Many women believe that if their man would just share his feelings, they would finally have the connection they crave. But asking a man how he feels in counseling is like asking a woman in a bathing suit who's eating a piece of cake how much she weighs.

Trying and failing to get a man to talk about his feelings in marriage counseling may confirm a wife's worst fears that her husband is defective. But the real failure here is her lack of respect for the man he is -- the one she picked to marry.
Chances are good that you married an imperfect man who's perfect for you. Instead of trying to pry his feelings out of him, consider bringing respect back into the relationship by honoring your husband's masculinity and his choices for himself. If you want more passion in your marriage, there's no stronger aphrodisiac than respect.
6. It's the most expensive way to try to control your spouse
Marriage counseling may seem like an important purchase, but it's actually a tragic waste because it diverts funds from something that really would help your marriage: Self-care.
Self-care means not only getting enough rest and nourishment, it means that you make it a priority to do three pleasurable things every single day. Relationships naturally take a little energy and if you're depleted, you give your relationship no chance to thrive. Showing up delighted instead of depleted is indispensable for a gratifying and intimate partnership.
You may have thought it was your husband's job to make you happy, but it's actually yours. Your husband would like to make you happy, but if he can't he may stop trying. Once you make yourself feel good, he sees that you are pleasable, which opens the door for him to delight you too. Men love making their women happy. "Happy wife, happy life" is not just an adage. Ask any guy.

To have the relationship you crave, fire your marriage counselor and discover the principles of intimacy. To find out which skills you need to work on to experience love and connection that lasts a lifetime, take the quiz at lauradoyle.org.